Ask The Swag Gal (September 25, 2009)
Welcome Swaggernauts to another Friday installment of Ask The Swag Gal. Let me start by saying “Thank you!” to TSG (the original!) for his recent kind words. Everyone has been so supportive since I’ve joined the team and being a part of a ‘Great Moment In Swag History’ is the icing on the cake! Now I better get to today’s question before I started getting all mushy and sentimental on everybody 🙂
Today’s question comes from Hipster207 in Carlsbad, NM. He asked:
I’ve been seeing a girl for two months now but she refuses to add me as a friend in facebook. She’s added boyfriends in the past, but when they eventually broke up it became awkward and paingful seeing her ex’s status updates. How can I tell her that it’s important to me that we be facebook friends, without seeming insensitive?
It’s amazing how much times change. Just a few years ago facebook didn’t even exist. Now couples are having major fights about whether or not one friends the other! Then again, I remember the look on my mother’s face when I tried telling her that I was mad at my high school boyfriend because he took five hours to respond to my page (as in beepers!). Yes, TSGal is getting old.
I agree with your Hipster that there’s a problem with your girlfriend’s attitude. It seems to me like she’s already preparing for life after your relationship, rather than living in the moment. And at this moment, the two of you are together.
More importantly though, you need to ask yourself why it’s so important that your girlfriend add you on facebook? Is it because that’s what your other friends do? Is it because you want to impress some of the other women that may be looking at your profile? Perhaps you’ll discover that your girlfriend’s time, attention, and love are enough to keep you happy. If not, it may be a sign that you don’t like your girlfriend as much as you like the idea of having a girlfriend, and in my experience, relationships built on shallow foundations like that very rarely last.
So what’s the real answer? Prioritize the things that really matter to you, and the solution will become obvious.
That’s it for this time. Keep sending those questions to firstname.lastname@example.org. Have a healthy and safe weekend, and see you on the flip side!