Ask The Swag Gal: August 25th, 2010

Dear Swaggers,

With summer break at a halt, so is summer love but that doesn’t mean the searches have ceased. In celebration of the season, let’s all chip in and share a little love advice with fellow swagger M, who writes:

Dear Swag Gal,

My best friend and I have known each other for five years, since we were both 21. Over the past year or so, my feelings have started growing into something more, and I think his have as well.

I want to keep our friendship, but I want to see if there could be something more there.

Do you have any advice on how to approach this? The only ways I can think of would most definitely ruin our friendship, and I can’t lose my best friend.

Brokenheartedly yours,

Dear M,

First, you are not brokenhearted!! Not yet, at least. You are just a hopeful romantic, which is beautiful. Knowing nothing more about the relationship with your best friend than it’s been running strong for over five years, makes it difficult for me to say whether you should go for it or stick to for your dating fix.

Don’t worry so much about how to chase him; just be open to the idea of a relationship and make sure your body language and conversation reflect that. Don’t be forceful with your approach – he is your best friend, you know the signals he picks up on from women and the ones he does not. Also, communicate with him; if you think he’s feeling the same way, you owe it to your best friend to be open and honest.

You only live once, you are only given so many people that are going to ignite a romantic desire inside of you and even fewer will actually spark into something that becomes a flame. What you are feeling now might just be the need for comfort in a troubling time; then again, he just might be “the one.” You’ll never know unless you put it out there. So just try it out, if it doesn’t work out, at least you tried and you’ll learn something new.