Ask The Swag Gal – February 2, 2011

This week’s Ask TSGal comes from a young girl on the search for Mr. Right. She asks:

Hi! I am a 19-year-old female and I have never been on a date or had a boyfriend. I haven’t met anyone at college, and I’m a sophomore. Should I wait a few more years for Mr. Right to come along, or should I try joining an online dating club? Are online dating organizations a good idea or only for the desperate?


Tired of Waiting
Dear Tired of Waiting,
At your young age, never dating or having a boyfriend is not so uncommon. I can tell you from experience that I didn’t have a serious boyfriend until my sophomore year of college, so it is not that unusual. You definitely do not want to ever force a relationship, because it will only end up being a waste of both of your time. Finding the right person is never easy, but keep in mind that nobody is going to be perfect. You are on a mission to find the person that is perfect for you. Someone that you are compatible with, who has similar interests as you, and who makes you happy. If you set your standards too high, you will never be satisfied, but don’t ever settle for someone. There is no rush when it comes to finding the right person, especially at only 19.
As far as dating websites go, I think this may be a good option. I have a lot of faith in the online dating world, as I know quite a few people who have met through a dating website and had successful relationships or gotten married. Although I would encourage you to check out dating sites that may be geared towards your age group or interests, I don’t think this should be your only option. You are in college – a place not only to learn academically from, but also a place to meet friends, experience new things, and start dating. Take advantage of your surroundings. Talk to people in class, join clubs, hang out at the student center, socialize at parties, attend your school’s sporting events, etc. The key is not to rush. You have your entire life ahead of you, so don’t miss out on the present. That special person will come around when you least expect it!
Good luck!
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